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Brynn Tannehill
02/03/2014
Last week the Williams Institute at UCLA released a study which analyzed data on suicide attempts by transgender people. It found that bullying, homelessness, familial rejection and even rejection by healthcare providers significantly increased the odds of a suicide attempt. Even those who didn’t experience these still had a 20 to 30 percent suicide attempt rate.
Part of me believes that many casual observers, even within the LGB community, will shrug these numbers off as just indicative of transgender people being mentally ill. That assumption is part of the problem itself. It isn’t being transgender that’s killing us.
It is the culture we live in, instilling in us a deeply rooted self hatred.
How can we value our own lives, when we are constantly bombarded with messages that we have less than zero worth as a person because we are transgender? How can we love ourselves enough to live, when our environment tells us that nothing in creation could love a transgender person?
We are told repeatedly that at best, our bodies are the subject of prurient interest, from the tawdry Maury Povich to the respectable Katie Couric. At worst, our bodies are objects worthy of only disgust and revulsion. When we fail to accede to demands that we make our bodies public knowledge, we are told that the violence against which follows is justified. We are called liars, deceivers, and traps for failing to announce our transgender status to the world. We are then beaten and murdered when we give the information demanded of us.
Being transgender is seen as so vile that our partners, parents and children often reject us. We learn that love isn’t unconditional, that in fact we cannot be loved by the people who mean the most to us. We are sent the message over and over again, that no one could love us as romantic partners. Life holds only a promise of loneliness and abandonment, and that we deserve solitude for refusing to remain in the closet.
This extends even to the supposedly unconditional love of God. The dominant message from Christianity towards transgender people is return to living in your birth gender, or burn in hell. We are not welcome. God only loves us so far as we comply with not being transgender.
We are told our core identities are a delusion that needs fixing. The ignorant believe we should be put in camps, or thrown in mental hospitals. Pockets of supposed professionals whom we not allowed to gainsay push their theories that gender identity doesn’t exist: That all transgender individuals are either self hating homosexuals or heterosexuals with a fetish. Either way, we are told our identities are wrong, and that in being wrong, we are worthy only pity and disgust.
We are told that when we are mistreated, bullied, fired, denied housing or refused service, it is exactly what we deserve for being freaks.
In a post-Lawrence v. Texas America, where lesbians and gays have had the right to be with whom they love for over a decade, transgender people are on the verge of having their need to conduct bodily functions in safety criminalized. We are told that we are rapists and violators of women and children. We are told the only difference between a transgender person and a convicted pedophile is the conviction. We are ordered to accept the fact that other people’s irrational fears supersede our actual need for physical safety, because we are too alien and loathsome to ever hope for empathy.
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